For years, my email address was registered with our electricity supplier. I got the monthly bills sent to me. My wife’s email was used for the water supplier. This made sense when we were a young couple with separate finances – but now we’re
a smug an old married couple, with a joint bank account, it’s a bit annoying.
We both want to see the bills, and we don’t want to rely on the other forwarding us an email, or sticking the PDF into a shared folder.
Couples of Twitter! How do you handle emails for "joint" things?
Like utility bills, hotel reservations, and other domestic accounts.
— Terence Eden (@edent) October 20, 2019
Moving house gave us the opportunity to change all our joint billing accounts. Here’s our slightly convoluted setup.
- We bought a new domain name. As all good projects start.
- I set up an auto-forward catch-all address. So “anything
@example.xyz” is immediately forwarded to my email and my wife’s email.
- We use BitWarden password manager – that lets us share passwords with each other.
- One of us signs up to a new service as
email@example.com, generates and securely shares a new password, and we both receive the confirmation email.
Why are we doing this?
- One of us could die. It would be extremely annoying to be locked out of an account during a period of bereavement.
- We’re jointly responsible for most of these things. It seems silly to split accounts arbitrarily.
- If my phone breaks while we’re on holiday, my wife still has a copy of the hotel reservation.
- Neither of us want yet another email account to check.
Reasons not to do this
- If the domain gets hacked / breaks / is blocked or disabled – we’ll have lost access to everything.
- We might get divorced. Decoupling things could be harder. Or one of us could lock the other out.
- Surprises and presents are still done on our personal accounts.
- Hard to send from a joint email without setting it up specifically.
- It makes us look like one of those weird old couples who have a joint Facebook account.
What other people do (A.K.A. Market Research)
Comes to one and then forward to the other only if relevant or need a back up.— Salma Patel (@DrSalmaPatel) October 20, 2019
We use “...+...@...” with forwarding rules. Haven’t got a solution for sending though.— Mark Wilson (@mark_wilson) October 20, 2019
I've answered for me, but my parents only have one email address so they go with 'joint email address'.— Caroline Jarrett (@cjforms) October 20, 2019
Used to divide and conquer bills. And have rules set up to auto-forward emails we commonly needed.— Sarah Casey (@SCaseyNZ) October 20, 2019
We now have a shared account - captures everything in one place.
Cc or forwarding. But like many others we don’t always share bills-related emails, we just deal with them and mention it if it’s relevant or important.— Carrie Kleiner (Barclay) (@TheCarrieAgency) October 20, 2019
Comes to one address - if its a thing we both need to care about(Travel plans, mostly), the receiver forwards it to the other person.— Spookathy Barratt 👻 (@Samathy_Barratt) October 20, 2019
We don't really consider bills emails to need the attention of both of us. We'd tell each other if an email does.
Poorly is the unhelpful answer. Most bills/utilities go to my email, but for trips we split the admin. So Thom books the hotel, I do train etc.— Carol ✨ at #OggCamp19 ✌️ (@CarolSaysThings) October 20, 2019
Can’t think of how to make it better other than a joint email, as when we’ve given people both addresses, they still always email me.
How do you handle this?
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