Not strange at all - I can nod along with everything you say there. In fact it made me ask myself - what must it be like to feel the need to look to a leader or be part of a group? Is there comfort to be gained from that state of mind, or is it a trap from which I am (relatively) free? I'd agree that in your choice of roles, and even setting up this blog, you are assuming some element of leadership yourself - but as a facilitator, I don't sense any need or desire to gain followers, just put some things that interest you out there. What does frustrate me is to be shoehorned into a tribe by someone else. As a white Anglo-Saxon Protestant male (by accident of birth), this happens a lot in the background these days, and very occasionally front and centre. For the most part I'm happy to acknowledge that any negative impact to me pales by comparison to very real, if never asked for, privilege I benefit from. Part of that privilege, at least for most of my life so far, is NOT being routinely labelled as part of a specific group, so I really won't cry about it! But I was stung by a recent online encounter with a person who I generally respect and promoted, when I was randomly put back in my box with a very free and easy ban hammer threat, for a point I made that others also did before and after without negative response, with a follow up to clarify I did not have the right to make it based purely on the fact that 'my tribe' had not done enough to tackle their personal bêtes noirs. The sooner we can shake off the shackles of tribalism, and become true communities of autonomous, equally empowered and respected individuals who don't need leaders or scapegoats, freely choosing to associate around the things that interest us, the better!