Perfect Christmas Gifts For Young Feminists
By @edent
· feminism gender NaBloPoMo politics · 2 comments · 800 words · read ~935 times.
Earlier this year, I went to the annual "Ada Lovelace Day" lectures at Imperial College. There, a succession of impressive ladies demonstrated that women are perfectly capable of participating in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Maths/Medicine) careers.
We all nodded dutifully - and applauded the women who had pushed back the boundaries of science and science communication.
All was going well, until one of the presenters displayed a slide talking about gender-specific toys. In amongst the chemistry sets, Lego, and computing toys, was this monstrosity: 
There was a collective intake of breath. Is this what people want for their daughters? Not to be the next Madam Curie, but merely to be Mrs Mopp the office char?
As a society, do we stifle ambition at birth by saying to girl children "Cleaning is the profession for you, m'dear!"?
I'm not so sure. Children like imitating adults and adult work. While it's true that most of the cleaning toys are associated with girls, there are some aimed at boys.
If a child wants to imitate what their parent are doing, should we prevent that?
We also have to accept that some people will become cleaners. There's nothing shameful about doing honest and useful work. Not everybody gets to be an astronaut.
It was the psychologist Stephen Pinker, I think, who coined the phrase "the how to be a human kit". We tell children stories and give them toys which socialise them into our world. Toys which are meant to teach the virtues we value in society. Cleaning is a social good. We need people to make life nice and tidy.
Finally, how do you create a child's toy that represents some of the more aspirational careers? It's easy to make a doctor's uniform - but what does "My First Web Design Toolkit" look like? There's no "Junior Lawyer" toys, nor "Petro-chemical Engineering Starter Kits" that I know of.
That said, I'm fully behind Pink Stinks' campaign against the rigid genderisation of children's toys. We have to be careful not to stifle children's imagination and potential.
I guess what I'm trying to do is find where the line is between "You're only good enough to be a cleaner" and "You can do anything you want - including being a cleaner."
This is further complicated by the power dynamic between domestic servants and their employers. The French psychologist Pascale Molinier wrote a wonderful paper which I found in The Commoner called "Of Feminists and Their Cleaning Ladies". In it she describes the tension of being a feminist and outsourcing traditional female domestic roles to other women:
... [T]he relationship with the cleaner displays a psychological tension between the desire to be served without needing to think about it – in which we find what Joan Tronto refers to as the "irresponsibility of privileged people" – and the desire to create a reciprocal link which "domesticates" this relationship. This tension is not specific to the relationship between female employers and their domestic employees, it interrogates our relationship with care more widely, in that we all benefit from it. P. Molinier, Of Feminists and their Cleaning Ladies: caught between the reciprocity of care and the desire for depersonalisation, Multitudes 2009/3-4, no. 37-38, p. 113-121
It was quite obvious that the audience (myself included) felt disgust at the thought of promoting domestic work as a valid career path to a young girl. I wonder if part of that disgust was cognitive dissonance around the desire to be served and have a clean environment, and the crushing realisation that necessitates the restriction of someone's ambition so that they may fulfil the role for us? That domestic work is somehow seen as a desirable form of subjugation?
That's enough feminist theory for now. I took a look at toy cleaning trolleys on Amazon and the results weren't pretty. If this blog were a Tumblr, it'd all be like:
If you look in her eyes closely, you can see all her hopes and dreams of being a CEO have been crushed under the patriarchy. 
If you thought the previous trolley's colours were too gender-neutral, why not go for this stunning pink number? 
That look of scepticism says "Well, that glass ceiling isn't going to clean itself, is it?" 
Over time, you'll learn to suppress the bitter feelings of disappointment. Just like men have been suppressing women for centuries. 
Fashion pro-tip: always, always, always match your top with your vacuum cleaner. 
Of course, the female experience isn't just about cleaning. The Early Learning Centre knows women can even work on a supermarket checkout! "Dammit, Sandra! You'll burn that top. Is it so hard to iron while I'm making important business calls?"
Phil Beesley says:
In the 1960s and 70s, a 'benefit' of a domestic cleaning job was that a child could be taken to work by mother. Presumably, the children were about 50:50 by sex, and that they learned that cleaning is/was hard work.
Whilst you can't buy 'Petro-chemical Engineering Starter Kits', you can still get crystal growing kits off the shelf or assemble a safe electroplating kit. Children can safely assemble a basic primary cell battery.
Just don't lick your fingers!
My neighbour gave the pink one to her daughter for her third birthday. I was crying inside.
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